Posted by cloudydaze on July 19, 2006, at 17:35:17
In reply to Re: I'm Back my son's gone to B.C.- to you all, posted by Kath on July 19, 2006, at 12:16:43
> Thank you so much for your support. It feels nice.
- I am glad to be able to help:)
> I spoke with his good friend yesterday & he told me that about 3 times over the past 3 months my son had been really depressed & had talked about his drug use problem. Even though he didn't do anything about it, it IS a first step that he does know & acknowledge that he has a problem.
- the depression is not a surprise. Once upon a time, i used drugs & alcohol to self-medicate. And my mom still drinks way too much. The depression could be the underlying cause of his abuse, or it could be the other way around.
> Then I saw another friend, who said he receives emails every couple of days from my son's girlfriend & she says my son has been 'clean' from drugs for almost 2 weeks.- That's good news!
> Initially this news threw me a bit:
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> 'oh dear, here he's trying to clean up & his Mom won't speak to him'
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> 'oh jeez, should I email him & tell him I love him & am pleased to hear he's cleaning up, but am still not in a place where I can talk to him'
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> 'maybe it's better for him to have me NOT talking to him; might help him keep the reality of where his behaviour got him to'
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> Those type of thoughts go through my head. I'm pretty chilled-out though. Not worrying. Not obsessing. Feedback on the above is welcome though. I've got a phonecall in for the counsellor I'm seeing to call me. Don't know if I mentioned my husband's work covers it for about 8 sessions. And this counsellor allows 1 15-minute phone session between appointments. I think that is so sensible.
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> Thanks again for your support.
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> Kath
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> PS - last evening there was a phonecall from BC (which we didn't answer) & no message was left. I didn't know what to think of that.- You should only talk to him when you feel comfortable doing so - When you feel like you can be strong enough to talk to him and give him emotional support without going overboard or feeling obligated to help him in other ways, then by all means, talk to him.
Keep us updated!
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