Posted by llrrrpp on June 25, 2006, at 18:13:04
In reply to Re: I got labelled as a troll :-(, posted by Deneb on June 25, 2006, at 17:56:24
hi Deneb*
I think it's good that we can talk openly on p-babble about things like fear of death and cancer and suicide and self-injury. p-babble helped me figure out when suicidal ideation crosses over a line and how/when to get help. Where else are we going to find support from people who have been there and who aren't going to judge our morality or put nasty labels on us?Having said that, psycho-babble is not going to be like your other relationships. We do have to censor ourselves in real life, and in other contexts. We have to censor ourself on P-babble to stay within civility guidelines. Many people won't understand teh extreme experiences that mental illness affords us. They tend to get upset, judgemental and stop listening to us. This is why I think it's a great idea for you to hang out with people in real life. You will get a feel for practicing empathy in person, and practice for communicating without upsetting people to the degree that the conversation falls apart. It's wonderful to have confidants in real life, but it takes a lot of work (trust and communication) to get a relationship to the stage where you can talk about potentially upsetting topics without your friend or boyfriend getting angry. And some people, no matter how much we hang out with them will never be able to understand things. They just don't have the imagination, or they aren't willing to consider things that fall outside their worldview. But these are the kind of people that you hang out with for other reasons, maybe becuase they make you laugh, or they always invite you someplace fun, or they make you study with them and you get A's. It's important to cultivate all kinds of relationships, not just the relationships that will allow you to bare your innermost hurts and dreams.
Anyways, I'll hang out with you anytime, D*! Maybe next p-babble party we can meet?
-ll
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