Posted by madeline on May 21, 2006, at 20:44:02
In reply to Can't detach from 22yr old son's stupid choices..., posted by Kath on May 21, 2006, at 11:38:39
What drugs is your son on? Do you have any idea? Where is he getting the money to pay for them? Is he an alcoholic?
Whenever illicit drugs are on board or alcoholism is on the table, then it becomes a totally different ballgame to me. Laziness is one thing, but addicitions of this type can ruin a person from the inside out, and the son you love may be lost inside a bottle or down a crack pipe.
To me, your son might be 22 but he may need you now just as much as he did when he was an infant.
I'm not talking about where is he going to put his stuff when he gets kicked out of his apartment, I'm talking about an escalating pattern of drug abuse and neglect.
You need to determine the extent of his drug use and if it's bad, you need to get him into rehab. Physically put him there if need be. Legally, get medical power of attorney, have him declared incompetent, do what you need to do to help your son.
I've seen this happen so many times and the parents just think they are powerless to help, or just simply pay bill after bill after bill. If your son can't take control of his life, then you need to do it for him and you might just save his life in the process.
Maddie
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