Posted by madeline on May 6, 2006, at 16:08:54
In reply to Help! What does 'moving on' mean to you?, posted by corafree on May 6, 2006, at 2:50:08
After 6 years and close to $40,000 worth of therapy whatever "it" is that stagnates us, is not one thing.
For me, I realized that I could look under every single stone, understand every single event in my past, and never release "it" from me. "It's" too integrated into me.
I'm learning now to move with it, instead of on from it.
I'm not going to lie, I had a horrible childhood, every single aspect of myself was obliterated by the people that were supposed to love me. For DECADES I was trapped in that obliteration.
It will never go away. It's always going to be with me, but it doesn't have to rule the day any longer. I can make choices, I can evaluate things for what they really are, and not some distorted perception from my childhood. I can trust and love and do all that stuff.
Well, okay, I'm learning - there goes another $40,000 right there I'm sure - but I allow myself to make horrible mistakes.
I don't think anyone can EVER truly move on, but accepting a willingness to carry it with you while you move, that's the important thing.
Just my two cents.
Maddie
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