Posted by Racer on May 6, 2006, at 11:00:39
In reply to Help! What does 'moving on' mean to you?, posted by corafree on May 6, 2006, at 2:50:08
My brain isn't quite here yet today -- I sent it out to be washed... No, wait, I'm just having a Not Good Morning, but this is something I'm trying to work out, too, so I do have some thoughts. They're quite muddy, though, and I'm not sure I can express them. If I can't manage here now, I'll try again later.
Anyway, you're right -- "Don't run away" isn't always good advice, and I think some of us get into trouble because we've taken that in so deeply that we don't run away from the wild bears. (Actually, bad example: running away may trigger them, so drop and roll into a fetal position and try to urinate...) But the fact remains, there really are times that we do need to run away, and I think we forget that and try to work things out.
"That happened a long time ago -- MOVE ON!" Uh, the person who says that to me most often is one of the people who did many of the things that I need to move on from. Guess what? Maybe if she hadn't been quite so strident with that advice for so many years, maybe then my mother would have been a little more serious about getting me help when I needed it. Maybe then I would have gotten help when I was 15, 16, and not had to suffer so long before getting help on my own.
And I will move on. But first I have to Get Through It.
Think about it as being like a path, a trail across fields and through woods. When we come to a wall, we have to find a stile to cross over it before we can move on. If you haven't moved on yet, maybe you haven't found a stile yet, or maybe you're afraid to climb it.
Muddled brain, but maybe that isn't too bad? I'll try again later, if I figure out a way to communicate through language...
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