Posted by corafree on May 6, 2006, at 2:50:08
What exactly is ‘Moving On’?
Being ‘mentally ill’ ... I’ve learned a lot about what is and is not acceptable human behavior, and I guess it has made me ‘take a really hard look at myself’.
Now, I've also learned ... I shouldn’t be ‘codependent’, and 'I shouldn’t ‘run away’.
But wait, if we were never loved, would we just innately love ourselves?
But wait, if we were in danger, shouldn’t we run away?
Now that we’ve evaluated ourselves and had numerous therapists evaluate us also, we should sort of be a bit ‘superhuman’ .. don’t you think??? I think we think we should be anyway! Personally, I feel that may be a larger problem than being co-dependent or running away.
I’ve been losing people, places, and things lately. I’ve been stripped down to a skeleton. What do I see in the mirror? Just a human being. I see a human being that is being told to 'move on'. There’s nothing 'superhuman' about me. I’m living on SSD; a ‘financially’ poor human being. Oh, and also physically ill.
I need suggestions about ‘moving on’. How is it that’s done? From what point to you begin? From the moment someone says you should do it? From your inner-child point? From your 'leaving your fam of origin nest’? From your most recent failed relationship? From 'your empty nest’?
How and from where do you ‘move on’, and do it without breaking the rules (co-dependency or running away)?
I’m wondering .. should I set aside these 'rules' and 'be human about it', or am I expecting myself to be 'superhuman’?!
If I could just be human (Somebody give me a break! Me give me a break!) maybe I could at least know from which point to begin 'moving on' from … I think. Then, I might see 'the way' to move on.
My therapist talks of ‘church’ and ‘things men look for in a partner’. I believe she believes one of these would be a ‘moving on’.
What is ‘moving on’ and can it be done w/o $ and in poor health? Help! I see a light ... I see I’m human! That's making progress. I feel guilt and cry, and that doesn't mean I won't make another mistake, feel guilty and cry again in the future. Can't I just let myself be human for more than a few 'cognitive' moments?
Can anyone tell me what they believe ‘moving on’ is? Have you done it? How does it work? Where did you begin and did you know where you were going? Did you arrive in a nice place?
Is this 'moving on thing' about starting over v. aging gracefully? I wonder if it is simply acceptance.
Just a little bit about me; I still twirl around like a wild woman when I hear the song 'Free Bird' and I'm scared of getting old.
(There .. now I've really made this a difficult topic.)
See what I did? (Do you do it too?) I usually make things challenging for myself. I 'think' I'm supposed to be setting an example for others. I see it as my responsibility. Oh, I try to 'turn things over' cognitively, but just running on my own time, it's no longer 'innate' to be 'simply human'. (Did I change the subject?)
Thoughts please, cf
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