Posted by caraher on August 9, 2005, at 22:24:58
In reply to What do you think of FLIRTING????, posted by happyflower on August 8, 2005, at 16:39:58
Apparently I am extremely flirting-impaired. I think eye contact is a part of it, and that's one thing I worked very hard on in therapy. I first became aware of it with an ex-T who asked, "What is so interesting about your shoes?" Apparently I'd spent the whole session staring at my feet. We didn't really go anywhere with that; it was my next T who had more of a CBT orientation who really pushed me to do something about it (and not with the idea of improving flirting skills!).
Sometimes it feels as though my wife labels almost any communication between me and a female between age 15 and 50 as "flirting." I've had to train myself to ignore that as much as I can. At the same time she's probably also correct that I often completely fail to recognize flirtatious behaviors.
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