Posted by Tamar on August 7, 2005, at 18:48:44
In reply to Re: sex, posted by crushedout on August 7, 2005, at 17:31:12
> or maybe it could even be normal? i guess i kind of doubt that. we're not supposed to go through long droughts in sexuality.
Yeah, I don’t think it’s terribly normal to go through sexual droughts; at least, not for me. I like things balanced.
> uh, yeah, you have a point. no, i knew it was kind of a silly question, but i must admit, it shocked me. just *how* turned on i got. plus, i mean, she's attractive, and i guess we have some chemistry, but i'm still not sure if she's really my type.
Well, maybe it’s all coming back. That should be a good thing, right? And maybe feeling turned on by a kiss on the arm is an indication that you’re feeling ready for some sex, whether or not it’s with this particular woman.
> oh boy, i've had that feeling. that's the thing with me -- it seems to be rather all or nothing. and when the all goes away, it seems kind of sad. i like it when i feel like humping people's knees on the subway. :)
ROFL! Yeah, I know all too well about wanting to hump people’s knees on the subway!
> tamar, maybe it's none of my business, but i'm curious: are you married? are you gay?
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> just bc of what you said about the attractive woman it made me wonder. then again, you know, i think sometimes everyone's at least a *little* gay (and at least a little straight, too, of course).(Deep breath…) I’ve been married for nine years. All my partners have been men… except one. I had a two-year relationship with a woman before I met my husband. I never say I’m bisexual, because it sounds a bit silly given my very straight lifestyle. So sometimes I say I used to be a lesbian, but I don’t really feel comfortable saying that either (for all sorts of reasons). I don’t want to think of that relationship as anomalous, because it’s clearly part of my identity. So I don’t really know how to label myself. I still look at women, but I seem to be primarily interested in men (sexually). Mainly I think of myself as a straight woman with a colourful past.
Hmm… I came out. Whatever next?
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