Posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 20:39:23
In reply to Re: Drama triangle, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 19:54:55
> But now I'm talking myself back into the rescuing role, just when I'm slowly realizing how little I am able to help in that role.
You can't change someones situation (mostly)
You can't change how others respond to them (mostly)
But you can help them see what is going wrong (if they want to know)
Maybe...
I would think of that as helping rather than rescuing.
Every perpetrator requires a victim.
Feeling victimised is the usual justification for perpetrating.
Rescuing... I dunno.
I don't know much about that.
Except that one can't save other people
Just like how nobody can save us.
I don't know.
Thinking about my mother now.
My main persecutor.
I feel mad that people turned their backs on the situation and didn't get me the hell out of there. I feel mad (though a little less so) that people didn't try to help me.
my father
my teachers
the rest of my family
the world. basically.I guess it is one thing to make the situation better (which might have counted as rescuing)
Another thing to have spent some time with me. To have talked to me. To have tried to help me deal with the situation.I don't know.
I'm all confused now.
Not you.
Me.Um.
Can you block me???
I'm really enjoying these discussions but my deadline is looming and I really have to do some work now... Being addicted to babble isn't really a problem in my life... aside from deadlines. could you block me until Friday night??
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