Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 19:54:55
In reply to Re: Drama triangle » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 19:50:24
Bystanders from middle school I mean.
I told my son that there were probably a dozen girls who were actively mean to me. Another dozen that were actively nice, though none publicly while I was under attack. And the rest were bystanders. But it wasn't until years and years later that I was able to sort out in my mind the girls who were mean, and the bystanders. They all blurred into one mass of cruelty in my mind.
And I'm still not sure the teachers didn't bear as much blame as the bullies. I think I still see them as being as cruel as the bullies because they could have chosen to do something and didn't.
I'm still talking middle school, of course. :)
But now I'm talking myself back into the rescuing role, just when I'm slowly realizing how little I am able to help in that role.
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