Posted by sunny10 on May 2, 2005, at 12:20:27
In reply to Re: compulsive liars » jimmyjgill, posted by fallsfall on May 2, 2005, at 8:14:33
If she's a compulsive liar, how do you know she actually cheated on you?
Many people with a fear of commitment and/or abandonment lie. They lie for all kinds of reasons. Mostly, they lie to refute their own prior words about how much they love you. They are attempting to "not love you", because to love you would mean they have to commit to you (or, in the case of abandonment issues, they are so afraid of being left behind again that they decide to "do the leaving", thinking it would be less painful).
Hard to say with a described "compulsive liar"...needless to say, there is somethin underneath her lies- something she will need a great deal of therapy to "undo".
If she does come back to you, don't greet her with open arms; greet her with the name and number of a great therapist and tell her to come back after she's been in therapy for a year!!
Learning this one the hard way, myself....
sunny10
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