Posted by All Done on March 5, 2005, at 2:28:40
In reply to Re: Dread and procrastination » All Done, posted by daisym on March 4, 2005, at 23:42:15
> Laurie,
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> I think partly the urge to stay up is to soak in some of the peace that comes with nightfall. There is less universal demand on you, no matter what the demands are. It is OK to wait until tomorrow to do whatever...clean, pay bills, return phone calls, whatever. I find that in the middle of the night the world is still in a way that it never is during the day. That hush...allows me to just be with me, no pretense, no expectations. Of course, it also gives space for memories and dark thoughts, but that is another thread.
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> I don't know. The dread goes down at night for me. I agree with some of the other posters, the dread is about not having the energy to do something, even if it is pleasant. Even making conversation sometimes feels like a chore.
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> I wish I knew what to tell you worked...sometimes pushing works, sometimes giving yourself permission to pass on activities works. Just remember that isolating yourself too much is not a good thing.
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> Take good care,
> DaisyDaisy,
It is much quieter in my house after everyone's in bed but me :). I've always looked at my late night hours as "me time". Regardless of what "needs" to be done, I don't feel or hear the demands on me nearly as much.
And I've really tried since I've had my son to tell myself that certain things can wait (or be dropped entirely). Unfortunately, I feel like I've pushed the limits with that. Sigh.
I appreciate your response, Daisy. Please take good care of yourself, too.
Laurie
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