Posted by Fallen4MyT on November 29, 2004, at 18:21:10
In reply to Re: How aweful is this? or...is it? HELP PLS, posted by anastasia56 on November 29, 2004, at 18:00:42
Hahahaha I do not whack people I would feel too guilty :P and you're most likely correct. It's just so hard for me to understand WHY he is uncomfortable to that level with perfectly nice parents. They are old too so if I were him I would be afraid NOT to see them in case ya know. I see my T tomorrow and MAY cover some of this but it's crazy making for me. I do not think this man feels any guilt not being flip here but he has done a lot of really bad things and didn't care, I would bet you the farm he will blame someone else maybe me for his choices I saw him do that when he lost his job after being warned 3 times. He still blames his boss and said I woudn't let him get enough sleep lol...duh... I too do not think it is fair to expect me to go and this has me on a high stress alert. My husband all in all is a-moral so I am not too happy with him. Like when I broke my hand and asked him to zip my coat he said "Do it with your other hand" he is just.....off or ?
Thanks :)
> you nailed it when you said it is like your husband is uncomfortable seeing his parents on his own. That is exactly the description i would give of my husband with his mother. She adores him and I know he is capable of being alone with her and talking.
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> I hope you can be strong. I'm not sure what my shrink would say in this situation. All the guilt you are carrying about this doesn't seem right, like it shouldn't be your guilt. Maybe you should concentrate on making him feel guilty since they are his parents and he doesn't seem to feel responsible for fulfilling any family obligations? just whack me if i'm out of line.
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