Posted by Fallen4MyT on November 29, 2004, at 1:42:09
In reply to Re: How aweful is this? or...is it? HELP PLS, posted by anastasia56 on November 28, 2004, at 10:51:53
Hi Anstasia56, I honestly do not know what my role is with or for him. His dad has stopped in to see him at work a few times and I am not there lol and he was fine...WHEN he talks with his mom and dad he has a nice time and they are nice so it's not a case of needing a ref or anything. It is almost and I am not sure on this like he is uncomfortable seeing them alone. So I go JUST so they get to see their son or he would not go. He was married before and I know he saw mom and dad between wives (she died) so he is capable but why he has to drag me to see them I do not know. I don't want my holidays stinking of anxiety and all JUST so he will go see them. He is a grown man and can go on his own. I asked him to go ahead on Thanksgiving but he didnt he didnt even CALL them. He is odd, if it were my mom and or dad and I wanted to see them on the holiday (they passed away) I would go for a couple hours without him gladly in fact..Its like if I do not go me and his parents get punished , they do not get to see their son and I feel guilty. I even went one year with bronchitis and was so sick if I didn't go he said he would not go...I do not want to go Christmas..if I don't he won't that is silly to me and it's ...........stressing me to death...Thank you I am glad you understand this and you may have a good point that I buffer SOMETHING for him but...what? His folks adore him. I am sure I would not be missed and they would understand if he said I was ill or seeing someone I know, so HE could see them.....
I think I am staying home this Christmas I PRAY he sees his folks for a few hours ....but I have a very ill cat that will not be with me next year and to be honest want to be with him not sitting with strangers JUST so hubby will go see his folks. I AM SOOOO STRESSED ON THIS BECAUSE HE WILL NOT GO WITHOUT ME AND WILL NOT CALL THEM ....
On your mom...I do not know what the circumstances are but can you drop by to see her before or after you see his family or the day before?
God I hope I stick to my guns..I could fake ill but that is not like me.OMG I AM BABBLING ON...BABBLE :)
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