Posted by partlycloudy on October 10, 2004, at 11:07:05
In reply to Re: Setting firm boundaries » partlycloudy, posted by Dinah on October 10, 2004, at 9:50:43
> I think part of what gets me is that she so enjoys being in crisis. Being able to tell people to do that or do this. She's going to burn her support system in her church awfully quickly.
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Your mom has to recognize that you will not be there to rescue her when she does burn that support system out. When it does happen, the community at church will know what you've gone through already. (No more "bad" daughter.)I think that we have a responsibility to take care of our parents when they become old and infirm, but we don't have to get sucked into their illness. It is even more important to keep ourselves healthy - in every way - so we can effectively take care of them.
You are doing all the right things - home health care, using the support system that already exists; and you mustn't feel that you are a bad person for getting that help.
(((Dinah)))
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