Posted by karen_kay on July 23, 2004, at 13:05:31
In reply to Crying at my desk, posted by TexasChic on July 23, 2004, at 12:43:23
ask for forgiveness than permission (and much easier too!).
if i were in that situation, i would have gone to lunch, on the way out casually mentioned 'oopsie, i have to swing by the dentist's office, be back in a flash.' smiled and left before anyone could say anything. (for future reference)
some people are laid back, some people ask questions, some people are pickers (and say 'well, but that'll take precisely four minutes and 3 dollars in gas and i'll need a buck fifty from you for gas'). what i try to do is be thankful i'm the laid back type and not the one always houding my friends with 'i need a dollar fifty for gas in my car' or 'well, that's not just right across the street and you could run into traffic'. while your friend may not have known it made you feel left out (she probably jsut thought she was being helpful to you in pointing out that you'd have a drive on your hands, i'm sure), she did make you feel that way. but, i tend to find that when my friends make me feel like that (i'm sensitive at times) it's best not to talk to them because they get defensive (they say 'what? ytou can't be serious! if i didn't want you to go, i would have said so! you can't be serious!') instead, i just have to realize that i need to be even more careful with my words, so that when i run into people who are sensitive like me, i won't hurt them. and i'm thankful that i don't hit people up for gas money when we go to the movies together.
your friend probably won't change. maybe you can jsut accept she didn't mean anything by it. just that she was trying to be helpful in telling you that you could be looking at a rough drive. she jsut didn't phrase it the right way.
and don't cry sweetie.
and DON'T reply to anyone else but me! or i'll scream!!!!!
poster:karen_kay
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