Posted by B2chica on July 20, 2004, at 12:30:59
In reply to I am sad...., posted by Indie on July 20, 2004, at 11:30:06
ohhhhh, sweetheart. you sound like your heart just aches. i am sooo sorry you are hurting this way.
please Don't tell yourself to just "get over it". you need time to heal. And Never try to forget him. even though he's broken your heart, it sounds like you have some beautiful memories together. remember those, feel blessed that you were able to have them and remember that feeling. Yes, those times are now gone, don't forget that. Hang on to the love and memories, but don't hang on to the hurt, the ache, the disappointment. These will pass-will grow less and less with time, please trust me with this.
i think the fact that you haven't completely cut him out of your life is both incredibly admireable and incredibly painful. and to have him live only a 1/2 mile from you must be a constant remider. i am sorry for that.
You are focusing on all the "great times". well, if you two are separated there must have been some "not-so-great" times as well. Remember, the most impossible thing to compete with is a memory. sometimes we fall in love with a person, but stay in love with the memory. the memory of the great/unforgetable times, the hopes and dreams and sometimes unreal expectations of eachother. Sometimes when you think real hard and take a Really Close look at reality the memories you hold may be more than what was really there. (i'm not saying anything about you personally- EVERYONE on this earth does this.) it is a human factor. it's also a survival instict, to get past trying times.-Hang on to that part of you that knows you are incompatable, but don't be hard on yourself. you are grieving. you need to grieve for the lost relationship (whether or not it was really a "good" one). PLease dear heart give yourself time, but try Not to Dwell on it. This does no one anygood, especially if you suffer from depression on top of all this.
and sweetheart i have NO DOUBT in my mind that you WILL hear again "i love you, i want you", and you Will see the world! but you don't need a significant other for that!!
lots of love and hugs dear. ((((((((Indie))))))))
B2c.
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