Posted by AuntieMel on June 2, 2004, at 14:32:43
In reply to Complete meltdown on vacation -Long, posted by TexasChic on June 2, 2004, at 12:31:21
Just trying to offer another point of view here, not lay blame in any direction. I was cursed at birth with the odd ability to see both sides of an issue - and be able to argue either one.
And, I really do understand the pain of being yelled at. I tend to be very sensitive and the smallest tiffs can throw me off for a loonnnng while.
It's hard for anyone to know if you overreacted unless they saw the first incident. This is true of the the folks on babble, and for your non-yelling friend. Filling in details, since you all work together would only make it worse.
But, the demon alcohol has been known to exacerbate many a situation. At the point ol' yeller was in, it was the bottle talking, not her. Some folks will tell you that the drink only makes you say what you really feel. Not true. Sometimes a person just lashes out at whoever is handy as a way to calm thier own inner voices.
Does it make it right? Heck no. But it can help soften the pain.
Also, there are some folks for whom that type of an apology is the best you can get. For whatever reason, those folks have thrown up a defensive mechanism that keeps them from saying "i messed up, please forgive me."
As for work, it is possible to be friendly without being friends. To keep the office harmonious I think that would be the approach to take. Then - hey - maybe later you can go back to being friends.
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