Posted by TexasChic on May 12, 2004, at 9:42:27
In reply to Re: Sorry, I can't relate at all... » Racer, posted by Emme on May 11, 2004, at 21:23:56
My theory on blaming your parents for screwing you up is this (not including abuse): as a kid, your parents are responsible for you being screwed up, but as an adult, its your responsibily where you decide to go from there. My parents did a number on me, but I don't think they're responsible for the things I've done as an adult. That's all me. Of course there's some things that take you a while to realize, but still, they're your actions. I have a cousin who a few years back was blaming his mother (who is Bipolar) for his screw ups now, like drinking too much, relationship screw ups, ect. And he was like, 40 years old! I was like, you have got to be kidding me. If you don't try to change, that's nobodys fault but your own. Not that its easy or anything, but still, parents are human and they *are* going to screw up. That's just human nature. But who you decide to be as an adult is up the the individual. Anyway, that's my rant, and it is by no means directed at anyone or really has to do with this thread. Its just one of my soap boxes, you know?
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