Posted by Susan J on April 26, 2004, at 14:31:05
In reply to Re: Mother Question - Was I Right or Was I Wrong? » Susan J, posted by Penny on April 26, 2004, at 14:03:00
>>you don't have to take that kind of verbal abuse, which, Susan, is what that is. I know b/c my dad does the same thing.
>>Yeah, I kind of think it *is* verbal/emotional abuse, but god if I said that to her, she'd FLIP OUT!I mean, in my romantic relationships, or relationships with friends, I *never* yell and don't tolerate others yelling at me. I'll discuss stuff until I'm blue in the face, but the moment someone raises their voice and/or belittles me, that's it. I totally shut down and I'm no good.
> My recommendation? Next time, if that happens again, leave. Just walk out.
>>Almost got to that point, but fortunately she said she was sorry. I don't think she *felt* sorry, was just saying it to stop the argument, but I let it rest. I just kept sitting there wondering what was more important, a fricking (cleanable) rug or a relationship?Thanks for the support. :-) I live near my parents and see them often, or I would adopt some coping strategies like yours. Most of the time, it's OK with my mother. Just sometimes things get weird. And more hurtful than she understands.
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