Posted by Karen_kay on March 29, 2004, at 9:11:38
In reply to Is a little bit depressed good for you? (Long), posted by rainyday on March 29, 2004, at 8:15:08
You are worthy
You are intelligent
You are MORE than capable
You're beautiful
You will lose the weight (even if you don't really need to, because you ARE beautiful)AND YOU ARE NOT YOUR MOTHER
The easiest one to answer is the last. How could you be your mother? She's a different person. If you recognize that there are personality characteristics about her that you dislike, that's a wonderful step! It shows that you recognize things about her you do not want to mimic. And recognition is the first step in change, right? If you notice that you do them, take a breather (or 10) and relax. (Sorry to sound lectury dear).... But, you are not your mother. Just not possible! I fought with that for years as well.
And about your question:
This is tricky for me, being a skeptic and all. Sometimes I wrestle with the idea that maybe my perceptions are wrong. Then I realize, so what? So what if I think I'm a good person and I'm wrong? Who's that hurting? Certainly not me. And not anyone else. I think it's easier to think that you are a bad person, with bad traits. (Especially if you grow up hearing it all the time.) But personally I decided I'd had enough of that. And only wanted to think good things about myself. I may be way off of course. And I've never said that I'm always right, unless I was arguing with someone and kidding of course. And I still have those days where nothing goes right. But, on those days I honestly look in the mirror and say, "Well, at least you have pretty eyes. The world can go to he!!, but you'll still have pretty eyes." And that always makes me smile. It's hard to find things, especially when you are depressed, but they are there. Depression doesn't "point them out to you." They weren't there before. We all have "faults". I think that the joy in life is to be able to take our differences (or faults) and laugh at them. I have no boobs and am a complete clutz! But, when I fall flat on my face, I'm the first to laugh about it. And I can't spell for my life. That doesn't make me any less intelligent. I won't allow it to.
People don't have character flaws. They have differences. I think depends largely in how you look at things. I changed the way I look at things. Depression has a way of bringing people down. And it sucks. But, try to change the way you look at the characteristics you'd like to change. If you think they need changing, then try to change them. But, better yet, try to become comfortable with them. I know I'm not as intelligent as many, many posters on this board, but I don't let on like it. And it doesn't intimidate me either. I have my own sort of intelligence. We're all different in our own way dear. It's finding that difference and capitalizing on it that makes life great. Imagine how boring the world would be if we were all the same. Looked the same, talked the same, had the same IQ, behaved the same. BORING, BORING, BORING......
Ps. About being well read. I read ALL the time. And with my faulty memory, I can't remember the beginning when I get to the end (and I read a book in 2 days). How's that for a predicament? See, that just adds to my quirk! I could become frustrated, but instead I'm able to read the same book over and over again and gain enjoyment from it. Also, the same with movies. But, I'm not really able to have intelligent discussions about authors with people. It's ok, I don't need to prove my intelligence to others. Do they need to prove it to me? Nope, I know they're intelligent if they can read a book and tell me what happens when I can't remember :)
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