Posted by katt on March 28, 2004, at 16:13:38
In reply to Re: Therapist and horniness, posted by CrazyGuy on March 26, 2004, at 17:27:17
Nope, I was his patient for about 3 years, I think. He called 911 during what was a suicide attempt the last time and the paramedics came. When I was in the hospital, he just dumped me (gosh, this feels so long ago!!). He never referred me. In fact, when he told me this, the hospital gave me antipsychotics and put me on constant watch -- even while I showered and did other business!! He is a psychiatrist.
I begged him for months to take me back. I would just show up at his office and he would offer to drive me home. I was desperate to spend every minute possible with him. He would give me a hug and I would never have turned it down. Sometimes, we would sit in a beautiful area where I lived and I would just plead with him. I would sometimes see him at his office over the weekend, but he didn't want me to be his patient. Then one day he was at a conference and gave me the name of the hotel to meet him there...I thought he was in a conference room of some sort, but I was surprised when it was just a room. I went inside and was upset about stuff so it never occurred to me. He asked to kiss me and I didn't know what he meant so I said yes. Things sorta got out of control after that. I was very confused for at least a year after that. I wasn't sure who he was to me. Then I got sick and my drive disappeared as did the passion. But he gets very upset with me when I can't do anything about it. So I just do whatever to please him. So long as he doesn't throw me out of the picture.
When I was discharged, I was bounced around from one therapist and one doctor to the next. I never settled in with anyone, and eventually, just stopped seeing anyone altogether. I really would never see anyone ever again.
> Wow! Sounds like a difficult situation for you. Just so I'm clear, did he ever see you as a patient and then refuse to continue seeing you out of the blue? Or, after your initial consultation did he refer you to somebody else for an unspecified reason (probably because he was attracted to you and knew he couldn't deal with seeing you as a patient)? Actually, I have been researching this situation online and as best I can tell, there is some division in the "professional" community about this (i.e. having a social/sexual relationship with client from years ago). Some are of the opinion that "once a patient, always a patient" (and thus always "off-limits") and others think that the specifics of each case are important to determining if it's ethical/unethical. (I think the situation may be different for psychiatrists (MDs) than for non-MDs.) And, in terms of possible professional ramifications (e.g. losing one's license), I think it varies by state. I definitely hear you about therapists being human and "screwed up" like the rest of us, but I would encourage you NOT to let this experience prompt you to write off ALL therapists ever. I've had experience with several over the years -- some have been horrendous, others great, still others I didn't realize their wisdom/insight until years later. Good luck.
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