Posted by inthegloaming on March 15, 2004, at 1:57:04
In reply to Problems with Hubby, posted by tinydancer on March 15, 2004, at 1:46:21
ugh. i'm so sorry! i know what it's like to feel trapped in your life, to BE trapped in your life.
what, may i ask, attracted you to him in the first place? this is not meant to be a snarky, rhetorical-type question; i'm genuinely curious. was he a different person then? were you?
some people, i guess, aren't equipped to 'handle' mental illness. we don't like to think of our minds as something that can get 'sick'; when you've got a virus, you go to a doctor. when you feel blue (to put it lightly), you ______.... for some, it's hard to make the mind-body parallel--i did too at first. i was very resistant to taking pills for what was later determined to be GAD. i said that i wanted to kick it myself, blah blah blah, that pills were a 'cop-out'. my stepmom sat me down and said that if i was a diabetic, would i refuse insulin on the same grounds? that got me thinking, made me realize a lot.
sounds like he doesn't get it, your husband. maybe he doesn't WANT to get it, thinks it will hurt him too much. it's hard to see those you love in pain and, as you well know, denial is not merely a river in egypt (excuse the cliche). but hey, i'm young yet (twenty in a months time) and haven't been married, so maybe i know nothing at all.
hope it gets better!
g.
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