Posted by deirdrehbrt on December 28, 2003, at 11:03:01
In reply to How do you escape this mental trap?, posted by Camille Dumont on December 27, 2003, at 20:12:39
Camille,
I'm so sorry that you are troubled by these questions now. I know quite well how these things can trouble your mind. I've asked the same questions, many many times. In fact, they concern me even still.I think that the problem with these questions is that they are so consuming and attractive and seductive, especially when we are depressed. We naturally ask these questions, looking for a way out, hoping that the answers will provide release. When we are depressed, we are looking for an answer that will releive us from the pain that we feel. We tend to forget that the pain will go away. It may take a while, but the pain will subside.
The danger of depression is that we don't know when the pain will end, we think it may never end, and we are seduced into acting that way. I fall prey to the same thinking. Even now, I'm in a slump. I know that I don't always feel horible, but I feel terrible, right now. I guess that's where our friends come in, especially the few that we let in close enough to know what we feel, and wheat we need.
I guess that's where my advice lies; allow yourself friends. Allow yourself to feel trusting enough of them to tell them how you really feel. Trust your therapist. Trust him or her enough to tell them the same things that you tell your friends. It's not fair to saddle your friends with things you won't tell your T. (This is a lesson I learned from my best friend.)
I hope that you feel better soon. You WILL feel better. It will happen. Recognize how you feel right now, but know that it won't last forever.
Take care,
Dee.
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