Posted by tealady on December 24, 2003, at 1:56:37
In reply to Re: Rampant miscommunication? » tealady, posted by tabitha on December 20, 2003, at 21:06:09
Tabitha,
Personally, as I said in a previous post I value
"...Someone to not only listen ..but also someone to communicate with me and share their thoughts on the matter. This is a far bigger ask than just wanting people to agree with you or give you some sympathy, ..probably why it is hard to find.
But to me this is far more valuable.. "Lar said..." I put a lot into every post I send ...(except those where I'm being goofy, and I think those are obvious). I carefully select every word, and sometimes I'm feeling literal fear when I hit the send button.....not because I'm afraid I'll be taken wrong, or might say the wrong thing, but because I've put so much of me into it. "
That is what I have really value..someone replying with their as carefully considered thoughts..as I said above.."this is a far bigger ask".....especially when they make the effort to carefully select their words and use descriptive language in expressing their thoughts
Tabitha you said to me
" Tell you what.. if you're OK with being told you give mixed messages and have mutually incompatible thought clusters coming from you.. how about I just give Larry's post to you as a gift?
Tabitha ..I can only say thanks for the wonderful gift. I would value any reply to me that which was written with so much care and thought. Lar's replies always have some special quality ..probably as Lar appears, from his posts, to be not only intelligent, but considerate and caring. It is also obvious he puts a lot of thought and a lot of himself into his posts.
I strongly agree with what Lar received in the email
"How often does someone make the effort to invest that much thought in someone else? That's one thing I really appreciate about your posts."Tabitha, I sincerely hope you can put any misinterpretation by me too behind you. ..this is just how I think, how I would wish for someone to respond to me.
Jan
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