Posted by octopusprime on November 17, 2003, at 22:43:35
In reply to Re: loneliness is not a phase, posted by Searchlight on November 17, 2003, at 16:27:39
hi searchlight!
if you have specific coping strategies, post away!
may i ask how you keep close friends at a long distance? i moved across the country from my friends a little more than two years ago. i still correspond with some of them occasionally (on the order of once a month or so), but it has been so long that i'm not so sure i could count on them to be there if i was in a pinch any more. plus, when i am seriously depressed (which i'm not now), i feel like such a drag on people that i don't want to call them up just to catch them up on my misery.
you are right about how one can feel intensely lonely in relationships. while i have never been married, i have suffered with loneliness in the context of being with other people. which makes me loathe almost to meet other people, because i don't need more problems, right?
sigh. i know you are right about therapy. i probably seriously do need some. i was hoping that using my money for a trip to mexico would be just as cheering as therapy (and more cost-effective per hour), but the more i hear the gospel sung, the more i feel the need to sing along with the choir.
cheerio.
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