Posted by jinglebts on October 8, 2003, at 16:59:41
In reply to It's gonna be ok, JB, posted by Chicklet on October 3, 2003, at 6:21:13
chicklet,
you are so reasonable and wise, and it's calmed me down ... yes, it is probably the case that my husband feels he's "let me down" (altho' i don't think he'd acknowledge it), and we haven't had a major "fight" (he closes off, i beat at him [a euphemism], it all turns mucky and i decide i can't live like this any more, yadda, yadda) ...
i'm on disability; i have some income (both from work and the gov't), so we're not absolutely destitute and as my mood improves (yes, i'm depressive, and being hypo makes me much worse) i see reason, and feel for him ... he's also got some "employment insurance" (another euphemism for the pittance they pay you when you're ...hmm... about to be re-employed but don't know when?) for the next few months ...
yup, it's hard when he has ADD and i think that he and his counsellor are working on that, but he's asked me not inquire (i can understand that too, altho' i wouldn't do it, and don't) ...
i know in my head "it's gonna be ok, jb", and thanks for calming me down ... we've already done SOME financial planning (we're hoping he'll get something by christmas -- if he doesn't, we'll go to our investment guy and see what the next step is ... perhaps selling the house but i wouldn't mind that -- i find myself wanting to live in an apartment downtown anyway), and i hope that everything WILL be ok ... my heart just gets carried away sometimes ...
thanks again ...
jb
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