Posted by Dinah on October 3, 2003, at 21:05:47
In reply to Re: Please Help --, posted by Susan J on September 29, 2003, at 14:21:21
Susan, I hope this doesn't upset you. But your brother sounds a lot like my husband. And sometimes wives in that situation can really really appreciate their husband's good points while still being driven around the bend by the obsessive features.
I know there are times when my husband doing something like you described your brother doing with the bathroom would just make me want to snap and kill myself or run away. It chips away at you and makes you feel like if you're such a rotten housewife/mother/whatever that it wouldn't matter if you were gone anyway.
And that doesn't mean I don't appreciate my husband's finer qualities. It just means that sometimes it makes me want to kill myself.
So maybe your sister in law was both very happy with your brother, and totally miserable as well. And with my husband, he got way way worse with the cleanliness stuff and perfectionism stuff after my son was born.
I hope she's able to work through it. Heck, I hope *I'm* able to work through it. But if she can't, don't think too harshly of her. She might be doing the best she can to survive.
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