Posted by fallsfall on September 4, 2003, at 20:12:50
In reply to So, why is it..., posted by Penny on September 2, 2003, at 10:33:51
Penny,
It sounds to me like you know what you want from her - you want her there if you need her, you want her to be your friend, you want her to let you live your own life, you want to not feel guilty when you do tell her what is going on.
Can you tell her that this is the way it is? That if she's always worried about you that it hurts rather than helps? That she can trust you to come and wake her up if you need to do that - if you don't wake her up that you are coping in your own way (you may have to promise to stay alive). That if she makes you feel guilty for sharing with her that you will stop sharing.
If you can really clearly tell her what your needs are and what the only responsibilities are that she has for you, then there might be some kind of chance? (Being who I am I would write it down so there wouldn't be confusion later, but most people aren't me)
You really do sound healthier and healthier. You Go Girl!
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