Posted by Susan J on September 2, 2003, at 13:11:47
In reply to Re: P.S. » Dinah, posted by Penny on September 2, 2003, at 12:34:21
> I am also sure that I am not the easiest person to live with, especially right now, with my swinging moods and clutter I can't seem to get a handle on, and so on. So, I don't know.
<<It's so hard to know what's going on when you (I) don't see the actual stuff, but from what you've written, it sounds like you have excellent communication skills, and she doesn't. Sounds like she wants to control every interaction between the two of you, and she can't, and shouldn't.
And please don't blame yourself. Nobody is easy to live with. :-) The only thing that makes it better is open communication, clear communication, and respect for the other person's boundaries. Sounds like you are doing all of those. I don't see so much coming from her side.
Mothering is a way of controlling the situation. Take it from someone who mothered her ex-boyfriend to death. :-) It's not healthy, even when you think you are helping, and it turned "him" into a child.....which of course made me want to mother even more.
Good luck,
Susan
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