Posted by noa on July 26, 2003, at 9:45:29
In reply to Same boat, sans anchor, posted by kara lynne on July 24, 2003, at 23:46:21
>wants to make sure if we go into counseling that I'll take as much blame as him.
Yeah, this pretty much fits with the impression I've formed of his motives for trying to re-engage with you. I know I'm cynical, and I'm here, not there, and never met the guy, but....I still have this suspicion that he isn't going to change and won't and that if you go back to him it will be the same old same old that made you so unhappy, and that you are now kind of out of his reach and angry and his narcisism cannot take it and he needs to not let the game end until he has made sure the scorecard makes him look good. He might consciously believe he is ready to love you and be in the kind of relationship you were asking for, but my impression is that he can't do it. He is too darn stuck on everything going his way--can he really relate on a level beyond that?
That being said, I know you have very complicated feelings about him and about this whole thing and so, don't worry about what I or any other poster thinks if you decide to go back to him. Love is not a simple thing.
As a commentary on the irrationality of relationships, Woody Allen told this joke at the end of "Annie Hall":
A guy goes to a psychiatrist and says, "Doc, you gotta help me with my brother."
Doc: "Well, what seems to be the problem?"
Guy: "He thinks he's a chicken!"
Doc: "So, why don't you have him committed?"
Guy: "I would, but I need the eggs."
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