Posted by kara lynne on July 6, 2003, at 14:24:13
In reply to Re: talked to friend briefly » kara lynne, posted by Emme on July 6, 2003, at 10:09:17
Hi Emme,
Good to hear from you. My father isn't so much verbally abusive as he is passive aggressive. He will just turn off and stop speaking to me and become very punishing with silence. He also gets very sarcastic.It's interesting because when I was telling him that we broke up I mentioned that my ex had said some things to me that were unforgiveable. He never asked me what they were, he just immediately said, "You should always forgive."
I think he really respected my ex (who didn't show much respect for me); they could relate on an intellectual level which is of foremost importance to my father. He has really sent me conflicting, crippling messages about my own abilities in life. I'm trying hard, but separating from a lifetime of negative enmeshment is no easy task.
Anyhow....hope you are doing well and let's talk again soon.
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