Posted by Penny on June 30, 2003, at 8:06:39
In reply to Re: Surviving..., posted by whiterabbit on June 29, 2003, at 21:52:37
You are very much right. And my therapist and I have been working on my setting boundaries with her. She takes my boundaries as a personal insult and I've tried explaining to her that when I choose to do something because it's the best way for me to take care of myself, it's not a shot at her, it doesn't mean I don't care about her. But I don't think she sees it that way. And I have to let that go. As you said, and as my therapist has also told me, it's her baggage and she has to deal with it, not me.
She started talking again last night about moving. She says she won't move until December when the lease is up, even though her name isn't on the lease, because she doesn't want to leave me hanging. I started to say, "Uh, well, thanks." seeing as how I thought that was an understanding when we moved in together that she wouldn't leave me hanging, since she knows there's no way I can afford the rent for our place on my own.
Whatever. Today I'm just feeling like not taking anyone's s--t.
and you are totally right.
thanks, Gracie.
P
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