Posted by bozeman on March 30, 2003, at 2:10:47
In reply to Re: Bluedog? Everything OK? » bozeman, posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 23:54:06
> Hello Bozeman
>
> Are you telepathic or something? Today is the first day that I've loggged onto PB in weeks and I have just spent the morning (Saturday morning here) getting myself up to speed on what's been happening here during my absence. I've only just finished posting in that rather flirtatious thread that you girls all had with lostsailor above when bang....I come across this post of yours. I can't help but noticing that IsoM seems to be absent from the board at the moment as well.
>Please promise you won't *tell* anyone about the telepathy thing. I try to keep it low-key, but sometimes I let it slip, then life gets out of control real fast.
IsoM is around, just not posting prolifically. She's been having computer problems and said she'd been feeling impatient with the world so not posting much. But she's OK I think. She'll chime in if she sees you're back, I'm sure.> Thankyou for your post...it made me feel really good. I actually wrote you a detailed response but it just disappeared on me. Anyway after my frustrated temper tantrum at losing my post...I just don't understand why my posts disappear at times (it gave me a message that the page had expired?) I am responding with a much shorter post.
>Just knowing you're fine is message enough. Sometimes I lose a post, but I can usually recover it if I stop and take a deep breath, and hit the "back" button on the browser. If I close the window, it's gone, but if I hit "back" I can sometimes save it. Let me know if that works for you (I'm using IE version 5something and I wonder if it works on others.)
> No kittens yet and no Yoga Girl yet either but I'm feeling OK at the moment. I've merely had a tough couple of weeks health wise (mentally speaking) but I'm starting to feel better again. I've just given my doggies that big hug and kiss from you (OK, OK.... I admit it was more than just one kiss) and that made me feel even better. VERRY clever of you....do you want to become my therapist?
>Pet therapy is just about the best therapy in the world, I think. Snuggling a warm loving creature who adores the very air you breathe . . . there's nothing like it. Snuggling a warm loving adult is a close second, but it's not quite the same as that absolute unconditional worship you get from (and give to) an awesome pet.
Sometimes I have an uncanny gift for knowing what people need to hear. Sometimes I'm just plain lucky, and sometimes I'm way off base. Don't know if I'm really qualified to be your therapist, but I'm a great listener, and you can bounce ideas off me anytime.
> Anyway I've had some time to process all the information that was sent my way about what women want and I now believe that everything that you girls wrote to me was perfect and true. Sure SOME women only go for supermodel looks or money just like SOME guys do but the great majority just want someone to love who loves them in return.....just like the great majority of guys. I am now in the process of trying to develop a little bit of that swagger that IsoM recommended I should cultivate.
>Absolutely!! I'm so glad you've come to that conclusion. You work on that swagger and you'll have nice ladies (not the snooty ones, but nice ones) swooning over you at the supermarket, among other places.
> I had a great discussion recently on this topic with my Yoga teacher and she confirmed that the majority of girls are really not all that interested in great looks but the guy merely has to be attractive to them personally but that the whole package is usually the deciding factor. By the way my yoga teacher is recently engaged and she says that she actually finds sensitivity in a guy VERY attractive. (needless to say her fiance is a sensitive guy). Do you think I should admit to my yoga teacher that I have this enormous crush on one of my classmates (ie Yoga Girl) that is distracting me during class?
>I'd say your yoga teacher is like most women in the civilized world. Sensitive men ARE sexy. They don't have to be sissy to be sensitive. There's a difference, just like women don't have to be prissy to be feminine. But even though your teacher is like other women (maybe *because* she's like other women?) I wouldn't tell her how you feel about Yoga Girl. She'd be too excited at the prospect of love in the air (since she's newly engaged herself and high on romance, in all probability) and would probably slip and say something at a less than optimal time (not intentionally, but just because she was so . . . happy.)
> You know what's really weird....there are some girls in my yoga class who are extremely attractive in the supermodel sense of attractiveness but in my eyes they are no match for Yoga Girl. There is just something about her that I find absolutely irresistable and in MY eyes she is the most attractive girl in class. How would you explain that?
>NOW you're catching on to why we women aren't the most attracted to the "handsomest" guy on the street. We're more attracted to the "normal Joe" who has something in his eyes, his smile, or his swagger, that looks interesting. That whole package thing again. I actually wonder sometimes if being *too* attractive isn't a handicap, because people like that might never learn normal social skills and functioning because they are always treated differently from that "90% average" bunch of us.
You're attracted to who Yoga Girl *is*. She's pretty, and that's great, but you see *her* peeking out from behind her eyes, how she moves, her smile, and it makes you want to know more.
I think JYL's advice was probably right on. The first time, don't approach her directly, talk to someone else but "can't take my eyes off of you" in her direction. Do that twice if you need to. Then say "Hi." Then say, "Hi, I'm Bluedog" After a couple weeks of greeting each other, maybe ask her for tea or coffee to a shop (public place.) If it goes well, ask her out (public place.) Take all the time you need, but even if you don't ever do anything but look at her appreciatively and respectfully, and say "hi" to her, you'll make an impression on her, and it'll be something you were able to do without vapor-locking (as is so easy to do if you've been out of the game for a while, as have I.)
> Anyway, a big hug from me for you and your feline babies.
>Thanks, bluedog. They love hugs, and so do I. Zorro is finally well, and better for the experience (he actually trusts me more.) Wally is still a snugglebug who likes to wallow all over me and nuzzle his cold wet nose in my ear. Sulley has finally broken into the "kitty circle" and is accepted by the other two, has re-gained his weight so he's not a shadow kitty, has finished cutting his teeth and has almost stopped growing. Wally (in my lap) says "PUUUURRRRRRRRR, can we go to bed now? It's laaaaaate." And, of course, he's right. So, off I go.
> Love
> bluedogHope you're having a wonderful Sunday, Bluedog. Glad you're feeling better. I had a virus for several weeks that nearly knocked me full for a loop, but I'm slowly getting better now.
Lots of love and big warm hugs
bozeman
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