Posted by agencypanic on January 27, 2003, at 15:35:03
In reply to fear of abandonment, posted by bpdzone2000 on January 27, 2003, at 12:09:40
Well, you certainly have a lot to deal with, and I can only make
a short remark. But I'm wondering if you're taking any medications for your condition?
As for your therapist and whether you should tell her what you've been doing: MY opinion
is that you should. That's why you're seeing her, right? Because you can tell her things that you can't tell
others. Again, my opinion is that you shouldn't worry that she'll abandon you-- she's presumably a professional
who is interested in helping you.
As for shame: well, that's a difficult one. Realize that you're not alone in this.
I imagine that every person has more than enough shame to go around. I realize that's probably of
little comfort to you, but it's true. That's somewhat key I think, because it seems that you judge
yourself as you think others would or are judging you. I'm not trying to play psychologist or therapist or
anything, just want you to remember to keep things in a certain perspective. Other people are not better than you are and
also have many things of which they're ashamed. I'll post more later and if you need someone to post to, or email, then let me know.
Sorry, as I reread my response it sounds trite, wish I could do better.
poster:agencypanic
thread:35845
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