Posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 13, 2002, at 17:05:31
In reply to Re: On anger... » Eddie Sylvano, posted by WorryGirl on December 13, 2002, at 14:40:19
> Hi Eddie,
> I'm sorry that you have been through a divorce. I was wondering if your ex wife had a personality opposite of yours or was she a lot like you
----------------------------We weren't entirely opposite, but we were pretty different. I'm pretty meek and mild, while she's forward to the point of being oblivious to others. She was very religious, while I'm an athiest. She was very emotional, while I was pretty sedate. Our values and likes were pretty similar, though, and we both loved each other a great deal when we got married. She was the kind of person who would talk of suicide if I were to ever leave her. Very intense person in general.
The next girlfriend I had after that was quite an odd girl, as well. My current girlfriend is the most similar person to myself that I've dated, and it's working out well, so maybe I finally got it right.> I wonder if she sensed things were going wrong with you sometime before and simply said nothing. Instead, when she felt you closing off, she turned to your best friend (which is still inexcusable in my book - a double betrayal).
------------------It could be. For the last 9 months we were together, my mind and body were seriously distorted. It descended on me very suddenly one day. I had no energy, couldn't think straight, and just felt off in general. I thought I was dying, and she did get tired of hearing about it. Still, I never got the impression that she was deeply upset about it.
> Do you think you would feel better if you let her know just how she's made you feel. I wonder if writing her a letter (even if you never send it) might relieve some of your bottled up feelings.
-------------------It's really weird, because it doesn't even seem like I was ever married to her now. She lives 2000 miles away from me, and I haven't spoken to her (or my former best friend) since the day of the divorce. She holds no emotional interest for me anymore. The whole thing just seems unreal to me now. That she even exists, and is somewhere doing something right now, participating in other people's lives, seems remarkable.
idk. It's been so long since I've felt normal that my whole life feels artificial and ethereal. It's nice to get decent advice from you guys. I can't really talk to anyone else about it, so thanks for your all your thoughts and suggestions.
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