Posted by WorryGirl on December 11, 2002, at 15:20:55
In reply to Well, I did it, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2002, at 20:33:04
Dinah,
I hope your situation doesn't materialize, but don't feel guilty for admitting what you don't feel you are capable of. That took guts.
At least they now know that you aren't ready to take care of them the same way your brother has. If your parents end up having to depend on you, then you will have to somehow let them know what you are not capable of doing without hurting their feelings. Maybe you could present it as "Because I love you so much I don't want to have to give you anything that is less than 1st rate; that's why I'm hiring "such and such" to do "such and such". Just a thought. I know it's not easy.Our parents have done a lot for us, but there is a difference between an adult taking care of children and an adult taking care of adults. Adults have more opinions and are more set in their ways. You can't parent them the way you do with your own children; you have to respect them, too. God knows, it's hard. I wonder how I'm going to handle those kinds of situations when my parents become more dependent on me. Good luck.
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