Posted by Dinah on December 11, 2002, at 8:35:06
In reply to go Dinah, posted by Medusa on December 11, 2002, at 4:07:03
It's not easy for me. I lived at home till I married, and did a lot of the housecleaning/yardwork since I was ten. Even after I married, I helped out as much as I could till my brother moved back home. Mind you, it was reciprocal and they helped me as well. There was never even a question in my mind last summer that I would help if my brother got called up, although I knew it would be difficult for me.
But my schedule changed this fall, and with just that change of schedule, my ability to cope was stretched too thin. My son's new school is only about 10 miles away, but involves an hour and a half of driving a day. Traffic. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to keep juggling things as it is.
I really don't have a choice about helping them directly. Doing so would mean abdicating my responsibilities to my own family, and that I can't do. And that decision is without taking my own psychological needs in mind. If I add that, it becomes even more impossible. I'd have to go on Luvox to able to tolerate my father's anger without self harm, which would further eat into my ability to get things done.
Thanks for validating my decision.
Dinah
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