Posted by Mr Cushing on December 10, 2002, at 22:41:24
In reply to Well, I did it, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2002, at 20:33:04
Dinah, this is just my opinion, but I really don't think you have anything to feel bad about. You're doing what's best for you now. As you said, your own house work is almost too much for you and you're falling behind.You said that you don't feel good around your parents...
"I can't spend 15 minutes with him without feeling suicidal or self injury urges"
So you're obviously looking after your mental health, which is a good thing.
You've offered them an alternative...
"These people don't like outside help, even if I offer to pay for it."
So it's not like you've totally backed out on them.
Sure, they have limitations; they're old, your Father is in a wheelchair, etc. But they're not the only one with limitations now. You also have limitations in what you can or can't do. What will keep you stable, and what will push you over the edge.
If you can't come to a compromise with them, such as paying somebody else to do their yardwork and not having them be so fussy about it so that the hired help doesn't decide to quit every week, then there's not much else you can do.
Besides that, in my opinion, your husband is right.
poster:Mr Cushing
thread:33192
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