Posted by ShelliR on December 7, 2002, at 22:36:13
In reply to Question about friendship - need opinions, posted by Krysti on December 7, 2002, at 17:09:37
Kristi,
If you decide to get out of the relationship (and that's where it seems like you're heading), take the high route. Try not to go back and dump eight years of blame on her before exiting. (You've gone over these things with her, and she won't/can't change). If possible, leave gently; don't slam the door. It might be possible to her to change, but I wouldn't count on it.
I went through a period of my life when I made friends with a lot of people from my support group of people with dissociative disorders. Many of them also had developed borderline personality disorders and although I understood, it became too hard for me to handle all the anger and manipulation. Once I let go, I really had no desire to reconnect, although it was scarey for me to start initiating friendships with "regular" people with normal problems. In some sense I had felt safer, though totally unsatisfied, with my friends who navigated the world much worse than I did. If that makes any sense?
Shelli
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