Posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 1, 2002, at 10:14:49
In reply to Re: Sounds oddly familiar. » Eddie Sylvano, posted by Ç®ëëþý Tabitha on October 31, 2002, at 23:27:31
> Wow, I've never heard myself spell it out in such depressing detail. No wonder I'm eager to turn being partner-free into a legitimate identity.
-------------------I wish there were some middle ground. One of the profoundly rewarding aspects of being in a relationship (for me) is being loved. I've always felt like no one really loves me, and I crave it. There's also the eventual lonliness that comes from being single for too long. You can have friends, but (especially as a guy) they can't spend that much time with you, or get close to you. There's no love. You can't cry on their shoulder, or hug them or anything.
Still, when it comes to relationships, the most commonly used yardstick of "success" is having lots of sex. As a percentage of time spent together, sex is tiny, but it gets all the attention. It also seems to me that, for women in particular, sex is sometimes more about validation than it is pleasure. Like getting a lot of job offers makes you feel secure professionaly.
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