Posted by Tabßitha on October 30, 2002, at 2:50:28
Hey y'all, I think I have a new never before named sexual orientation. Partner-free. Interested in neither gender. Just solo sex for me thanks.
I've been wondering for a while, I have such little interest in men most of the time, and I connect with women so much better, maybe I should try women as lovers. So my therapist asks me if I ever dream about sex with women. I say no, but I never dream about sex with men either. I realize, not only is my sex life partner-free, but my erotic dreams are partner-free! Is this my true orientation?
I just don't get it, what is the point of a partner for sex? You have to negotiate who gets their needs met. Nobody knows what the other person really wants without constant instruction. Your levels of desire are never quite lined up. You both feel pressured to perform. It's more trouble and less reward.
When it's just me, I get exactly what I want, when I want it, no more no less, and I don't have to work to please anyone else. Perfect!
The only thing a partner ever gives me that I can't seem to give myself is the ego gratification. That delicious sensation of being desired. I actually have dreams about that, but it never goes beyond a kiss.
Am I a freak? I don't care! If there aren't more like me, there should be. I'm proud to be... Partner-Free!
poster:Tabßitha
thread:31790
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