Posted by mair on March 13, 2002, at 16:34:22
In reply to Mea Culpa, posted by trouble on March 13, 2002, at 12:22:24
Trouble
I don't think you've analyzed this correctly, but I also think that it's pretty irrelevant since Dinah left choosing not to explain her reasons. She is free to come back and explain why she left to begin with and she is free to come back with no explanation and of course she is free to stay away. I hope she comes back (with or without explanation) as I trust do others, but I don't think you should engage in mental gymnastics trying to figure out what role you might have played in her leaving to begin with. The nature of the beast here is that we only get that kind of information if someone else chooses to give it to us. You can't confront Dinah as you might be able to if you actually knew her; you can't read anything from the tone of her voice, or her expression or her body language. In this respect the bearded lady is right in her assessments of the limitations of the Board.
I don't believe support has to be "rah rah;" I've seen plenty of instances where people communicated criticism in a civil and constructive manner. But no matter how familiar we all seem to one another after awhile; no matter how much you might feel that you really do sort of know someone after reading so much of what they've offered, none of us really does know people we encounter on this Board at all, and that's why I think that we all sometimes need to be careful how we deal with one another.
Mair
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