Posted by Mair on December 15, 2001, at 23:32:46
In reply to Re: So sad. » Mair, posted by Dinah on December 15, 2001, at 19:46:22
> " He was angry with me and asked that really stupid question "Why are you choosing to upset yourself and make yourself miserable."
Sorry but this guy sounds clueless. How could he suggest that this is a choice you are making? What reward are you getting out of feeling the way you do? Of course, viewing it in this manner means that he doesn't have to look at his role in your misery. How long have you been seeing him? How often do you see him? Maybe he just used really poor phrasing and would be mortified if he reflected a little about the literal meaning of what he said to you.
On a brighter note - 5 is such a great age - so easy to please, gift wise. My kids are teenagers. All they seem to want (of the things on their list that they might have some hope of actually getting) are cds and overly expensive name brand clothing and definitely no surprises. BORING! My husband says he misses shopping for toys, and I definitely miss the unquestioning and unconditional love. I don't think you can wreck his Christmas - hopefully he can make yours tolerable.
Cutting is a crummy thing to do to yourself, but it doesn't define who you are; it's just a symptom of your illness.
Mair
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