Posted by Dinah on December 13, 2001, at 20:07:57
In reply to Re: I think the worst may be over., posted by Mark H. on December 13, 2001, at 19:19:50
Hi Mark,
One problem I'm positive I don't have with him is sexual or gender issues. It's my emotional self that is attached to him. I like him well enough but could easily live without him. At the risk of sounding very odd indeed - and I really don't have DID (not that there's anything wrong with that) - he has earned my trust by always being kind to "her" even when she has been a royal pain in the ass. "She" has a mindless feeling of safety around him and sort of sees him as a mother dog to her blind newborn puppy. He soothes her. And "she" is too young to have sexual feelings towards anyone. ("She" thinks sex is gross.)
He really is incredibly trustworthy in the ways that matter. And he is very supportive during my periods of agitated depression and always seems to make time to see me twice a week during those periods. Perhaps he doesn't press me quite hard enough because he thinks my ego is weak (whatever that means - I really can't figure out Freudian theory) and because he has had too many unpleasant encounters with "her". We both tend to tiptoe around "her" far too much.
Am I addicted to cutting? Possibly. I am very parsimonious with my use of it because I don't want to have to escalate the intensity of it. I do obsess about it often. And I come from a family with a lot of addiction problems, which is why I have never gotten drunk or dabbled in drugs or gambled. But on the other hand, I have OCD and obsessing is what I do.
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