Posted by Augusta on December 13, 2001, at 12:20:24
In reply to Why oh why do I do the things I do?, posted by Dinah on December 13, 2001, at 10:54:49
Dinah,
It's not you. It's him.
Please repeat that ten times: It's not you. It's him.
Please repeat as needed until you start to feel better.
It really is him. He is treating you in a manner that tells you that you just don't really matter. I think it is *totally* reasonable to react as you are reacting to a shrink who tells us that we don't really matter to him. If we cannot trust our shrinks to treat us with a modicum of dignity -- who can we trust to do so? (And if we cannot trust anyone to do so -- what good is life? -- that, at least is how I feel.)
I am so sorry that this man has behaved this way to you. I personally feel that what he has done is horrible.
Please, please, remove yourself from this toxic situation. Look for someone who has some empathy and some basic therapeutic skill. And if it takes you a while to find such a person -- well, I suspect you would be better off with no therapist for a while than with a therapist who would do this to you.
I am sorry to speak so bluntly. Please forgive me if I should not have done so. As a sometime cutter myself, the kind of conduct your therapist has shown just makes me so furious. And for you to blame yourself???? No. No, that is just not all right.
God bless you.
poster:Augusta
thread:15439
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