Posted by shelliR on November 13, 2001, at 23:52:53
In reply to Re:followup » shelliR, posted by Marie1 on November 12, 2001, at 20:59:28
>Marie,
After I wrote my last post I remembered more things about your therapist from past things that you've written. I had forgotten besides giving you an ultimatum about diet pills, he had also been playing some kind of mind games with you-not telling you when he was going on vacations, etc. And you spend a lot of time in your therapy relationship trying to get him to say that he cared about you. And he'd pull toward you then pull away, etc.
So now I am feeling guilty for writing that maybe you should go back and work things out with him. I'm not sure he is open enough to his own feelings. If he is having any time of ambivent feelings, that isn't good for you, because you are not going to end up happily ever after, no matter how much you feel for him, even if he does care for you.
I'm sounding harsh. I'm not blaming you for falling in love with him--as we talked about this is common, but I am concerned about the way this therapist played into it.
I feel bad saying this, but I also feel like I need to be honest. I think if you want to continue therapy you should be looking for someone else--for your own emotional protection.
Still, that doesn't mean that I don't understand how deeply you are feeling pain.
Sorry if I confused you,
Shelli
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