Posted by Adam on November 12, 2001, at 11:10:54
In reply to Please married/committed folk help! :), posted by Krazy Kat on November 5, 2001, at 18:49:10
Been there (not with a man, but you know what I mean.) In fact, I was faced with a rather minor version of such an issue just last summer.
All I can say is, if it feels both seductive and wrong, it probably is exactly those things, and no matter how drawn you are, it's likely to spell trouble unless you distance yourself for a while and get some perspective. Just cool your jets. Don't see this person for a while. It may be really, really hard, but just don't pick up the phone, don't drive by their place, don't sit around by yourself dwelling on it. Talk about it, like you seem to be poised to do, with a clergyman, therapist, friend, whatever, but limit your actions to that: Talk. After a while, you may find emotions that felt urgent and compelling are not so much anymore, and chances are you will approach the problem with a clearer head, and more confidence about whatever it is you decide to do.
> I'm on the verge of seeing this man again, just to "talk". I know it's wrong - like stealing is wrong, and all those good morals/ethics. But life is so wrong right now, and it feels like it has been for 9-1/2 years.
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