Posted by Krazy Kat on August 30, 2001, at 14:08:38
In reply to children and relationships; anger and frustration;, posted by susan C on August 29, 2001, at 15:55:20
I do not think Mighty Mouse had a family. I think he was destined to be a loner.
What an insightful post, Susan.
Cindy: I am 30 and don't have children yet, and have felt mostly that I will not. This is mainly due to the fact that I don't feel I will be able to handle to it. My husband is not particularly child-driven, so there's pressure there.
But, then I wonder, if can get my medication working, if I'd be able to handle it, to do a good job. I do, honestly, worry about passing on this illness, which appears to be manic depression in my family. My brother is very "bad". It seems to just get worse for me. But maybe we have the type of med needed pinpointed now? I don't know. I really don't think I could survive very long without it. So that alone seems a little scary. And selfish.
Diane's reply made sense to me, that the second time could actually be simpler because you have things in place. I am convinced that the simpler the better for depressives and manic/depressives. And as two of the guys pointed out in a thread above, as children are older, I don't think you can hide what's going on - we never discussed my Dad's depression and it would have been so much better if we had.
Everyone's illness is different. Your husband may have to be prepared to take over if you become severely depressed at any point. But that's true whether you have another child or not.
The hardest part of all of this has been having to ask for help for me. The second hardest is trying to determine what outside factors are "setting me off", how much stress I can handle, which seems to be less and less. But part of that is medication, and building back up slowly.
Good luck and keep posting for feedback.
- K.
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