Posted by Mair on April 8, 2001, at 13:38:10
In reply to I am so alone, posted by PhoenixGirl on April 8, 2001, at 11:07:44
> Phoenix Girl - Have you already moved to Atlanta? Are these feelings worse because you're living in a strange place? Friendships have always been tough for me, also, but I have to say that platonic friendships with men weren't really possible for me until I was out of grad school and in the workplace. I just think there are fewer strictly social pressures and fewer of the expectations that sometimes doom a relationship. My relationship with my husband developed out of one of those platonic workplace friendships. I'm pretty sure the relationship would never have gotten anywhere if it started in the "dating" context. Also I think our lengthy pre-marital friendship has been something that's helped hold us together through some pretty rough times.
I'm sure this will sound really "yea-ish" (a "word" my children torment me with), but you might try volunteering at some places. I'd think you'd have alot you could offer in particular to kids who are going through what you went through. I'm sure there are tons of opportunities in a place like Atlanta, and you might find some like minded folks among other volunteers. Keep posting please. Mair (formerly ksvt)
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